Gretchen Rubin, blockbuster New York Times bestselling author of Happier at Home and the Happiness Project, has discovered four personality types to help us understand how to work and motivate ourselves and others. With the start of 2017, we empower you with the opportunity to develop new personal habits as well as help your students create new healthy habits! We hope our January 2017 video pick inspires you to help your students develop new positive habits.
The four personality types are:
Make a list of your students and think about how they respond to “rules.” Write beside their name which personality type you believe they have - note this can change over time. When you assign new projects to your students, look at your list and monitor the ones who need more motivation.
For the upholder types, give them a list of the items due and let them know when the final project is due. Allow them the autonomy for them to create their own timeline and check in with them every now and again.
For the questioner types, you can help them stay motivated by saying, “Here is the list of items that are due, you can work on them in any order you want.” Note, if they are a questioner/upholder type, that is all you have to say. However, if they are a questioner/rebel type then you may have to add, “I’ll bet you a cookie (sticker, free play, etc.) that you can’t get it all done by Friday.”
For the rebel types, you can help them keep up with deadlines by saying, “I’ll bet you a cookie (sticker, free play, etc.) that you can’t complete five pages of this project by the deadline.” They will need smaller chunks of the larger project with more encouragement.
For the obliger types, you can help them by checking in with them more often and making sure they have short-term due dates for the larger project. They will turn in their project on time but if you do not check in with them throughout the project, they may not give you their best work or they might not enjoy the project as much because they’ve waited until the last minute to complete it.
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It was the beginning of the school year, and Principal Denise Kelly was feeling frustrated. Despite hard work and positive efforts by her staff, her school – Sterling Elementary in Sterling, Alaska – was experiencing high levels of behavioral issues. Principal Kelly had more students in her office and had suspended more kids by October than in the entire previous school year. She wanted to break the negative cycle!
Mrs. Kelly reached out to the 21 Day Kindness Challenge with the hopes that the program would reignite her staff to feel kindness in themselves and to share the kindness with their students. She is extremely happy with the results.
“I saw changes in our students; I saw changes in our staff. When we talk about students and their difficult behaviors, we talk about how to lead them back to kindness with kindness! The focus on kindness has been infectious!”
Mrs. Kelly’s co-kindness coach is Katy McKinley. She was inspired to help with the Kindness Challenge because she has been teaching Growth Mindset in her classroom, and felt that the 21 Day Kindness Challenge is an excellent complement to the Growth Mindset. She was very excited about bringing additional positive change to their school.
Mrs. McKinley was very pleased with the impact the 21 Day Kindness Challenge has had on her classroom and Sterling Elementary. She says other teachers agreed that the 21 Day Kindness Challenge was much needed and served a necessary purpose in their classrooms.
“It is amazing how contagious kindness can be,” she said. “Students, staff, and community have been affected by our challenge!”
Mrs. Kelly concurred. “Our (kindness) chain was 931 feet and it equated to 6,571 acts of kindness!” she said. “But beyond that, we had a class who all on their own conducted their own kindness missions across the school and the world. We had a parent contact us and ask us to spread cheer with handwritten cards to the children at the hospital over Christmas to whom they provide gifts. We had numerous parents comment at how contagious our kindness challenge was!”
Sterling’s office referrals have already seen a decrease by nearly 70% since they held their 21 Day Kindness Challenge, said Mrs. Kelly.
“Students are helping each other more and are being more respectful to the adults.”
Mrs. Kelly says the best part about the 21 Day Kindness Challenge at Sterling Elementary School was watching students do kind things, tell her about the kind things they did and seeing them ask to help others “just because.” Mrs. McKinley agreed, saying that she also loved sharing the daily videos that are provided as part of the program and planning the kick off and celebration Kindness Challenge assemblies for the school, especially because they included lots of students and community members.
Sterling Elementary School really got into the spirit of the 21 Day Kindness Challenge with their kick off and celebration assemblies. They invited many guests to attend and participate. A former Sterling principal, a school board representative, their school district’s communications specialist, a community volunteer and their State Senator all made guest speeches! Their district superintendent and a former Sterling Elementary secretary helped the students celebrate at the end of their Kindness Challenge.
One of Mrs. Kelly’s favorite parts of the 21 Day Kindness Challenge was dressing up as the Kindness Queen, a role she took on during the kick-off assembly.
“For our second week, I decided that I should ensure that the students were still thinking about kindness after the weekend. So I put on my Kindness Queen costume – which is not necessarily 'Winter in Alaska' appropriate – and I went to bus duty, greeting all of the students and parents with a reminder to be kind!”
Mrs. Kelly says that anyone can and should do the 21 Day Kindness Challenge. “Any school can do it!” she says. “Focusing on kindness is easy! It is well worth the time and the energy.”
One of the 21 Day Kindness Challenge team’s favorite stories about Sterling Elementary was getting an email from an enthusiastic kindness coach from another school in California.
“I just heard the 21 Day Kindness Challenge on the Bobby Bones show!” she emailed to let us know. Sterling Elementary had received a super fun shout-out from the morning show hosts.
Listen to the shout-out on the Bobby Bones show here. The Sterling clip starts at 7:38.
The 21 Day Kindness Challenge team applauds Mrs. Kelly and Mrs. McKinley for their dedication, creativity, passion, and enthusiasm for creating a kinder, more inclusive school climate. To find out how you can make a difference on your school campus, visit our website!
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“One of the most difficult things to give away is kindness; it usually comes back to you!”
Teaching children the difference between tattling and telling can help a child more than you realize. A child who tattles can often have a harder time making lasting connections with other children around them. Tattlers can be wearing on adults, too. It can be difficult to have patience for a child who is continuously seeking attention by tattling.
That being said, it is equally important for children to understand the difference between telling and tattling. Children who do not want to be identified as tattlers may not tell an adult about a situation when they should. This can be a detriment and can cause issues to arise later.
Here is a simple activity that you can do with your class, at the dinner table, even while driving in the car:
Step 1: Print out the Telling vs. Tattling poster.
Step 2: Starting with you - tell a story where a person is tattling or telling.
Step 3: Ask, “Am I tattling or telling?” You can have your students refer to the Telling vs. Tattling poster.
Step 4: Ask the students to come up with their own stories and present them to the class. Encourage them to ask the question, “Am I tattling or telling?”
For ideas on stories you can check out these additional resources:
Let us know what you are doing to help your children with understanding the difference between tattling and telling. Leave a comment or send us a message.
Our book pick for the month is Lessons from the Classroom: 20 Things Good Teachers Do by Hal Urban. In his book, he offers great advice for veteran teachers and new teachers. Urban’s 20 lessons combine a harmonious mix of classroom management, personal improvement, and character development.
“When you focus on developing the whole child, not just their mind, children will learn to do things they didn’t think they could possibly do.” Hal Urban
A book for newbies and veterans.
Hal Urban, a 35-year veteran high school teacher, offers newbies and veterans teachers an incredible tool for creating a kinder, more inclusive school and classroom. Urban gives 20 practical lessons about building community, creating a positive atmosphere, and debunking cliques.
Think outside the box.
Although it is directed at classroom teachers, counselors, librarians, and administrators can too greatly benefit from the lessons found in this book. Particularly, Lesson 6: Good teachers create a caring community; Lesson 10: Good teachers, along with their students, have a mission; Lesson 14: Good teachers help students discover the power of choice, and Lesson 12: Good teachers help their students both own and honor their rules; Lesson 16: The power of quotations.
Suggestion for “others” on campus.
If you are a counselor, librarian, or administrator complete Lesson 6: Good teachers create a caring community. In this lesson, Urban suggests students conduct a two-minute interview with other students in their class, but we suggest you sit down with every student at your school and conduct your own two-minute interview. Here are a few of Urban’s suggested questions: With whom do you live with? You may include siblings away at college (or serving in the arm forces). What is something you own that is very special to you and why? What is an important goal you have for your life? Who is someone you greatly admire? Why? It must be someone you know.
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We’d love for you to share your thoughts on this month’s book pick: Lessons from the Classroom: 20 Things Good Teachers Do by Hal Urban, with us as a comment following this blog post or on our social media channels Facebook and Twitter.
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