What is self-kindness (A.K.A. Self-Compassion)? Dr. Kristin Neff defines self-compassion as being kind and understanding to yourself when confronted with personal failings. Dr. Kristen Neff says to stop judging and criticizing yourself for your inadequacies or shortcomings. But instead, treat yourself kindly by saying, "this is extremely difficult right now, how can I comfort and care for myself during this time?"
According to Dr. Kristen Neff, there are three elements of self-compassion:
When we recognize that everyone (not just ourselves) encounters frustrations, losses, mistakes, and failures, it will help us treat ourselves with kindness and compassion.
The Dalai Lama says, "Before individuals can develop genuine compassion for others, they first have to be able to commit to caring for their own well-being."
Modeling self-kindness for our students can be difficult, especially if we struggle with it ourselves. That said, the first step to changing anything is acknowledging that something needs to change. Then, comes the hard part, making the change.
Here are four simple ways you can model self-kindness for your students.
Until next time... be thoughtful, be present, be kind.
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